Next New Malden Monthly Meeting
Thursday 7 June 2018
 * Mindfulness and Schools *
* Take action for a happier, more caring world *

(We meet at 20:00 on the first Thursday of each month
door open from 19:40 for refreshments)
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Earth Day 2018

As part of our actions to celebrate Earth Day 2018 theme to End Plastic Pollution, we, along with Kingston Environment Centre, wrote to the CEOs of six local supermarkets. The speed and depth of response are reassuring, and copies of the correspondence can be seen on this page.   

Lord Richard Layard, talks on Action for Happiness!


2018 Events and Meetings

The focus for the AFH 3rd of May Meeting was Mindfulness in Schools. Caroline Leahy a teacher at St Francis Xavier 6th Form College talked about her experience of launching the .b Mindfulness in Schools Project at her college. She briefly touched upon the logistics: training, time and timetabling implications, costs and the promotion of the course to staff and students. She shared that a positive 'spin-off' of the student course was demand from teaching staff for something for them; thus Mindful Mondays an after school session for staff was 'born'. 

Attendees also got the opportunity to participate in an actual .b lesson to get a real sense of the value of the programme. Caroline guided attendees through Lesson Three - Recognising Worry which involved an interactive activity called the 'hot cross bun' informed by Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT). The session ended with a guided 'beditation'.


On 19 April we hosted a "Help End Plastic Pollution on Earth Day" event. Share this link to the Plastic Pollution Calculator and the toolkit with your friends, family, and community. And share it on social media to help End Plastic Pollution this Earth Day.
Earth Day
Click on above image to see materials with links to
Earth Day Resources discussed at this meeting.

The 5th April 2018 Action for Happiness meeting explored the idea of running occasional 'Flash Events' like the following one - our first - on World Happiness, that took place on 22 March @ 18:00.

Click to see World Happiness Event Slides

Click on above image to see materials with links to
Global 
Happiness Resources discussed at this meeting.

The 1st March 2018 Action for Happiness meeting covered the subject of 'Volunteering' with Bertha Beltran-Leon.

Giving (do things for others), is the first of the Ten Keys to Happier Living. We can do things for others in many different ways, for example by volunteering. It is important to mention that Giving connects with the second, fourth, ninth and tenth Keys to Happier Living ie Relating (connecting with people), Awareness (live life mindfully), Acceptance (be comfortable with what you are) and Meaning (be part of something bigger) respectively.

Volunteering is more than just rendering the hours needed for a task.  It is a way to show others they matter. As long as you have the right attitude, skills, commitment and drive to do the work You Can Make The Difference.

                     ‘We make a living by what we get
                      We make a life by what we give’
                                             ~ Winston Churchill

Volunteering is related to increased happiness. Helping others can make us happier. Happier people tend to help others more.  There is scientific evidence that suggests that happiness makes us likely to give more, and giving can help us to be happier, which leads to a greater tendency to give. This is known as the Virtuous Circle.

The benefits and positives of volunteering for both volunteers and recipients are numerous and are well documented. However, on this occasion, I will concentrate on the Seven Myths that exist about volunteering.

1. You Don’t Need Any Qualifications or Skills to Volunteer. 
Contrary to this, most volunteering opportunities need people who have a particular skill or experience in order to help more efficiently.

2. You Know The Needs Of The Community.
Despite researching an organisation beforehand, there is nothing like experiencing their mission first hand. One should have the right attitude to respect their own ways of doing things and accept your own ideas might not be the best solution.

3. You Can Only Volunteer If You Are A Student Or A Fresh Graduate.
Demographic data from the Corporation for National and Community Services (CNCS) found that in 2015, 19.2 million volunteers were baby boomers, 4.8million were veterans and 11million were 65+. You can never be too old or too young to help.

4. You Can’t Afford The Time Off Work.
You can be a volunteer while being at work. Doing it on evenings or weekends on for instance a monthly basis.  Being a volunteer not only will broaden your knowledge, make you feel more confident but expand your network.

5. You Don’t Need to Work Hard Because You Are Just There To Help.
Volunteering for a good case could be an inspiring experience but only if you are committed 
and passionate about it. You are not really helping if you are unreliable.

6. You Will Change The World.
You will only make a small contribution but it will impact the big picture. By volunteering you will be able to help make at least one person’s life a little better. That is a reward in itself.

7. You Have To Be Selfless To Volunteer.
When you enjoy helping good causes, you feel happier, healthier and confident. Improved mental and physical health are two great reasons to volunteer.if you are eager to learn a new professional skill or flex an existing one by putting it into practice, skill volunteering can help you do that.
VolunteerMatch.Org recruit highly qualified volunteers.

      Bertha Beltran-Leon



The 1st February 2018 Action for Happiness meeting covered the subject of 'Habits.'

This was a follow up on Januarys meeting “Happiness and New Year Resolutions. Those who did the "Four Tendencies" quiz online, started off by sharing which type they came out as. The most common of the four tendencies people were categorised as was probably ‘Obligers’ (those who meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet self-imposed expectations).

There seemed to be some agreement that various techniques and strategies designed to overcome negative habits didn’t always work in the long term due to the unpredictability of life in general. People openly shared their experiences of habits and addictions and highlighted the significance of mindfulness and awareness.  12 step groups also seemed to play a major part in positive change for those at the meeting. As well as the importance of being compassionate to one’s self,  the message of the evening was to ‘get out of your own way’ so you can be guided by your wise intuition.

The evening was run by Tim, who volunteers for Kingston Wellbeing, a service that offers drug and alcohol support. Tel: 020 3317 7900,
email
: cim-tr.referralskingstonwellbeing@nhs.net


Click here if you’d like to hear a talk with Gretchen about the principles detailed in her newest book, The Four Tendencies and how to discover which of the book's four archetypes you embody—whether you're an Upholder, Rebel, Questioner, or Obliger—as well as the challenges and advantages each type faces. Gretchen also discusses what it takes to start changing an entrenched habit. Finally, Gretchen explains why it's so important that you keep personal spaces uncluttered. (61 minutes).



The 4th January 2018 
Action for Happiness meeting focused on “Happiness and New Year Resolutions”. 

Caroline writes: "My New Year intentions include trying to build more joyful activities into my life including lots more being in nature which I find so rejuvenating. I also intend to make much more effort to connect with friends and family.  I have a couple of exciting projects to look forward to: I will be launching the .b mindfulness in schools programme at my college and Mindful Monday’s for teachers. Lastly, I am going to try and reinvigorate my actions for happiness by keeping a happy journal🤗🙏". Caroline

Bertha added "I enjoyed attending the group last night and as always learned from everyone's contributions. Very inspiring.

Reflections with regards to New Year's resolutions/intentions:
To focus on the process rather than on results when setting our resolutions and intentions for growth and improvement. Have a good and healthy week." Bertha



2017 Meetings

The 
7th December 2017 - 
Christmas and 1st Birthday New Malden Hub Party

Birthday Bang - 1st Year Action for Happiness - New Malden Hub Party

 

Action for Happiness Director, Mark Williamson - 2 November 2017 

We heard from the Action for Happiness Director, Mark Williamson who talked about his personal journey, his corporate background, Mindfulness and his introduction to Lord Layard that led him to this incredible charity.  Mark breaks down what Action for Happiness is, its mission, the courses, the goals, and also reflected on the results and success so far. 


Creating a happier world with Jeffrey Sachs - 5 October 2017 

 Creating a happier world - with Jeffrey Sachs
 
We attended the inspiring national event with Professor Jeffrey Sachs as he explored the causes of happiness and unhappiness in modern Western culture and shared his vision for a better culture and a happier world. 

Jeff is a world-renowned professor of economics, a leader in sustainable development, senior UN advisor, bestselling author, and syndicated columnist whose monthly newspaper columns appear in more than 100 countries. He has twice been named among Time Magazine’s 100 most influential world leaders. He was called by Time Magazine “the world’s best-known economist.” 

You can access the Facebook Live video from the night's live stream. 

Self Compassion with Joanna Barker - 7 September 2017

Click here for a copy of the Self Compassion PDF of Jo's excellent presentation. This includes the video reference for an Expert introduction by Dr. Kristin Neff. Jo helps us understand that “by making this choice to move out of judgment and into compassion for yourself and others” can change everything in our lives for the better!  Further Reading and references are also included.  

Can we be happier at work?
 - 3 August 2017

This was the theme for this months discussion. In this fast-moving and entertaining TED Bloomington talk from psychologist Shawn Achor he argues that actually happiness inspires productivity. We believe that we should work to be happy, but could that be backwards? 


Work is a huge part of our lives. Most of us spend more of our waking hours working than doing anything else, so it’s obviously good if we can enjoy our work. But sadly, many of us find our working lives to be stressful, frustrating, confrontational or uninspiring.

In this session, we explored how we feel at work and how this relates to our performance. Are happy workers just laid-back underachievers or are they actually more creative and productive? Do happier organisations get better results? What really affects happiness at work? And are there things we can do to make our workplaces and working lives better?

New Malden Fete - 8 July 2017
 
 
 
 

Renowned author and Emotional Intelligence expert Dan Goleman
Explores the latest scientific research about Mindfulness and how we can apply this to live wiser lives and contribute to a happier world.
This talk is available at our weekly Mindfulness Group Meeting from 6th July until 10th August 2017

In May, on Thursday 4  the evening meeting was on ‘Gratitude’ led by Andy Sinclair. Click here for a copy of the Gratitude PDF of Andy’s excellent presentation. This includes the video reference for the introduction by Professor Brene Brown on the relationship between joy and gratitude "one of the most important things she found in 12 years of research!" Further Reading and Film references are also included.  


We are inspired to be a hub where people can connect and share inspiration together.
As Mark Williamson, Director of Action for Happiness, says "These local connections hold the key to happier lives and a happier society".

This is an open group with new attendees encouraged and welcomed. Or visit us at the
Action for Happiness Stall 
at the New Malden 
Craft Fair in the High Street on Saturday 8th July 2017.

http://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/OliverBowers
For the second-time Oliver Bowers is running the London Marathon collecting for the Mental Health Foundation and new this year, the London Marathon Charity Heads Together. This mental health campaign is spearheaded by the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry.  Their Royal Foundation is working in partnership with seven inspiring charities to change the national conversation on mental wellbeing. It would be great if you could add your support. The details of where your money will go are on this donation link: http://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/OliverBowers


Please share amongst family and friends.
For info: tel 079 3201 1848 or email yoga.bowers@gmail.com

2017 Meeting Dates and Themes
(First Thursday of the Month)
Facilitator and Theme for the next 6 Action for Happiness New Malden Hub Meetings

March 20th has been established, since 2013 as the annual International Day of Happiness.
Sign up at www.dayofhappiness.net to 
receive a free Happiness Guidebook, a wonderful new Happiness Pack for use with children and access 
to the new 
2017 World Happiness Report which is being published on the same day.


Members of the New Malden eight week "Action for Happiness Course ~ Can we build a happier world?"
Graduates of the New Malden 2016 eight week September - October
          "Action for Happiness Course ~ Exploring What Matters?"

https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1sdZl53DEB-D0J72F-rHORxWUrSAUwDVXlC664y4-cd0/present?usp=sharing
KEY 4
Mindfulness Practice Kingston & New Malden 
 
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Both spiritual traditions and science now agree - happiness is a skill we can develop through conscious choice.


World Happiness Report

Did You Know? The Benefits of Happiness bring . . .

LUCY'S STORY

How Lucy used ideas from the Ten Keys to Happier Living
Find out how Lucy used ideas from the Ten Keys to Happier Living to help deal with depression and anxiety:
Read Lucy's story

BOOK: TEN KEYS TO HAPPIER LIVING

Ten Keys to Happier Living is a fantastic new book from psychology expert Vanessa King,
Order your copy of our inspiring, science-based book and discover how to live a happier life and help create a happier world.

POSTER #2: RELATING
Connect with people

Relating. Connect with people


POSTER #3: EXERCISING
Exercising. Take care of
your body

Exercising. Take care of your body


POSTER #4: AWARENESS
Awareness. Live mindfully

Awareness. Live life mindfully


POSTER: GREAT DREAM
Ten Keys to Happier Living

GREAT DREAM. Ten Keys to Happier Living


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